Many times you have seen people around you frequently get angry. You have also noticed all the behavioral changes. Sometimes, people confuse anger with aggression and violence., and anger is always not negative, it could be positive also.
Anger is a normal human emotion, but if not control it could be dangerous for your physical and mental health. It can harm your quality of life. Anger can affect your personal and professional life both.
Anger can increase the heart rate, blood pressure, depression, stress, anxiety, eating disorders, heart attack and many more. But apart from this anger also has survival benefits, it prepares you for fight or flight response.
Some people get angered easily, in psychology term we call it a low tolerance level for frustration, these people fell that they should not have to be subjected to inconvenience, sadness, and other emotional disorders. They can’t take the things in a light manner and are also impulsive in a manner that they have inculcated a habit of spontaneous reaction.
Misconception for anger:
Anger and aggression are two different things
Both the terms are quite different from each other; anger is an emotion whereas Aggression is a behavior where the intention is to harm someone or something. In aggression, we hit people, use foul language, or insult somebody.
Anger is not always bad for you
Sometimes anger helps us to confront injustice. It alerts us to the facts that we have been treated unfairly or the situation is not favorable to us. Like we get angry when we are hungry or when thirst motivates us to drink.
There are many ways to express anger
Anger not only expressed in aggressive ways. In fact, there are many ways to express anger, it depends on the situation and circumstances. Like, it could be expressed by solving problems, or by doing exercise, or pen-down your thoughts and feelings etc.
Ways to keep Anger Away
Relaxation is the simple tool to keep your mind at peace, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings. There are books and courses that can teach you relaxation techniques, and once you learn the techniques, you can call upon them in any situation.
Change the way you think
Angry people tend to curse, swear, or speak in highly colorful terms that reflect their inner thoughts. When you’re angry, your thinking can get much exaggerated and overly dramatic. Try replacing these thoughts with more rational ones.
Anger and frustration are caused by very real and inescapable problems in our lives. Not all anger is misplaced, and often it’s a healthy, natural response to these difficulties. There is also a cultural belief that every problem has a solution, and it adds to our frustration to find out that this isn’t always the case. The best attitude to bring to such a situation, then, is not to focus on finding the solution, but rather on how you handle and face the problem.
The first thing to do if you’re in a heated discussion is slow down and think through your responses. Don’t say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering. Listen, too, to what is underlying the anger.
Humor can help you get a more balanced perspective. When you get angry and call someone a name or refer to them in some imaginative phrase, stop and picture what that word would literally look like.
Changing Your Environment
Give yourself a break. Make sure you have some “personal time” scheduled for times of the day that you know are particularly stressful. One example is the working mother who has a standing rule that when she comes home from work, for the first 15 minutes.